Sometimes, all that is needed is for someone to listen to your concerns or
issues. Unbelievable as it may sound, many of us have plenty of opportunities to
talk, but still lack feeling heard. It may not be safe or nice to voice how you
really feel.
I am a great listener, without judgment, and lots of empathy. Most of the
dilemmas people face are quite human and not as hard to relate to as you might
think.
My advice can be as down-to-earth as recommending a specific change of
life-style, or as deep as helping you find the meaning of (your) Life, or your
vision. Depending on your level of awareness, you may want direction or insight,
guidance or vision.
I come from a perspective of seeing the God in most people I meet; seeing the
innocent child they started out in life as; feeling the lessons and sometimes
the suffering that made you into the person you are now. My spiritual advice is
based on who/how YOU claim to be and who/how you say you want to be.
When you state your vision, and share with me your life style; what works and
doesn't work; what you want to keep and what you want out, I can give concrete
suggestions as well as creative solutions to making life style changes that will
work for you to realize your vision.
Sometimes, we have mental blocks. Sometimes we even play with them,
unconsciously. Forgetfulness, obsessiveness, errors in judgment,
absent-mindedness, bad habits, unconsciousness, insensitivity, daydreaming, and
many other mental issues are caused by lack of mental training.
Similar to physical laziness causing obesity and cardio-vascular problems, so
does mental laziness cause many mental problems. As physical exercise helps the
body, mental exercise helps the mind.
When you're stuck in the material world, you may need to develop spiritually
a notch to continue on. What that notch is, differs from person to person.
Through counseling we can discover what the next step is that you are willing to
take, and fits your path.
Fitness does not mean super-muscular, or hyper-slender, or any other
idealized version of a human being. The goal of personal fitness to have your
body be in the best condition for the life style and circumstances that YOU
envision for yourself. Taking a 20 minute walk a day may be too little or too
much, or just right for you; it all depends of what you think you want be able
to accomplish.
In a loving way with your permission, I will always encourage you to reach your
stated goals, even when you are willing to give up or don't believe they are
possible to reach.
Quite often we are not aware of how we come across to other people. You can
use me as a mirror to find out how you come across. All this requires is that
you show me as genuinely as possible how you interact with your partner,
teenager, co-worker or family member (without getting out of control, especially
against your therapist, thank you). I can provide you feedback in how to
communicate more effectively.
Losing a loved one, realizing the futility of Life, feeling without friends
or family, being afraid of all the problems in the world, these are all very
real issues for our soul that can have deep and troubling consequences on our
psyche. Withdrawal is a conditioned response in such cases, but counseling is
imperative in order to stop the path of disconnecting further and further from
the world.
Addictions come in many form, and the substances we abuse are varied. What
all of them have in common is that we use them in the mistaken belief that we
need them to be happy or reduce our suffering at least. Our body, our mind and
worst our soul can get so attached to an idea, a thought, or a physical
substance that we come to believe we will cease to exist without it.
There are no easy quick fixes to long-term or chronic problems. We need to come
to grips with the reality of our circumstances, rather than hang on to the
illusion of "feeling better" when we use and abuse.
Opening my heart to you is part of my counseling technique. I often share
very personal stories from my own life experiences to try to relate to you. By
making myself vulnerable to you, your judgments and opinions, I take a risk of
getting hurt and at the same time setting an example. Any time we confide, we
risk a part of us. it's always a gamble, but with time, you will get better at
estimating the odds of winning. What you stand to gain is trust, intimacy,
connection and Love, a regained faith in yourself, the world, and your place in
it.
Your hurt is my hurt.
Your healing is my healing.
Love,
Markus
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